Being Independent Doesn’t Have to Leave You Lonely {Real Conversations Series}

To say that Meredith Bernard has captured my heart would be an understatement. Truth is, she’s wrapped around it. Her true-to-life words and straight-to-the-matter honesty are a breath of fresh air in this often less-than-real world. That’s why, when I read the words you’re about to, I knew that God had given me a go-ahead to embark on this journey of Real Conversations—and that Meredith needed to be first to speak. Please join me in warmly welcoming my farm-living, ice-cream making, sister-in-Christ to this space…

Real Conversations

For years I lived in the misguided belief that the quality of my life was up to me. I was the only one who had control over my outcome, because my decisions bore their own fate. A self-described loner, I not only felt safe in my singularity, I took pride in it.

More than once I found myself saying that no matter what happened, I would always be able to take care of myself. I made sure of it with two college degrees and a stubborn, independent personality that I could have just as easily written an award-winning dissertation to back up.


The death of a parent, marriage, divorce, job change, pregnancy, marriage again, child number two, three church moves in three years, and eventually quitting my “safe” job for my “dream” job with all of the benefits that the world says aren’t benefits at all.

Sometimes life rewrites itself in ways we don’t ask for, understand or want and sometimes God uses our self-absorbed decisions to show how very little in control we are, after all.

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There came a point I realized the quality of my life was indeed up to me, but not in the ways I had once thought. Yes, my decisions brought outcomes and in many instances, consequences. But the decision to bear them alone proved more than I could bear.


When I realized that I really didn’t want to be alone, that I really did long for and need people, I feared that my decisions had left me alone for good.


One by one, little by little, as I gave over to God what I could no longer carry, nor wanted to, He replaced my fear with friends. Life-giving, soul-mending, tried-and-true friendships that I assumed I had forever forfeited through my selfish and sinful life choices.

The thing I now see, that I never had before, is how very much one life needs other lives to live life full.

He keeps showing me how very much alike we all are in the very different skin we all wear. And He loves us enough to bring people into our lives that we need, just when we need them, for as long as we need them.

We were created to worship, serve and love God…together. <==== Click to Tweet ]

Because two or more souls glorifying their Creator beside one another can shine far brighter and reach much further than one alone.

Meredith - Profile PicMeredith is a perfectly imperfect Daughter of the King, wife to her cattle man and “Mama” to two Littles ages 4 and 6. After giving up her “stay-on-the-road” job for her “stay-on-the-farm” dream, she now uses the passion God has given her to encourage others through her Lens and her Pen. In-between learning to homeschool and make cheese, she is on a quest to find #TheSTILLife.  For a few laughs and maybe a few tears, follow along with her kitchen mishaps and days raking hay and chasing dreams on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

You can also find these words linked up at my favorite spots:  Holly Barrett (#testimonytuesday), Kelly Balarie (#raralinkup), Holley Gerth (#coffeeforyourheart), Kristin Hill Taylor (#threewordwednesday), Bonnie Gray (#faithbarista), and Jennifer Dukes Lee (#tellhisstory).