When You Don’t Know What to Say

When I was a little girl my parents used to warn me, “think before you speak.” I’ll chalk the admonition up to the unhindered speech of a child, but nevertheless, it was repeated enough that it stuck.

Whether the eagerness of youth or the pitfalls of heightened emotion, it’s fair to assume that every one of us has fallen prey to some form of verbal vomit only to later wish we could swallow back every word.

The advent of social media has proven to widen the danger zone. We’ve become a culture of instant emotional gratification. Feelings enters in and reaction follows, with multiple public forums at our fingertips. There seems to be a unique kind of courage, a previously guarded boldness, that emerges from behind the safety of a computer screen and smart phone.

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Perhaps it’s the wisdom of age or my parent’s advice proving useful (who woulda’ thought), but I’ve found myself biting my tongue with even greater frequency these days.

In the face of hyper-frequent global tragedies, increasing political interests, or even the unexpected phone call that one you hold dear has received a devastating blow, we can often find ourselves searching for the right words.

If we paused to think before we spoke, would we share more words … or less?


I’m over at iBelieve.com today sharing 5 ways we can use our voice when we’re not quite sure what to say. I’d love for you to follow me on over to read the rest of this post


You can also find these words linked up in some of my favorite spots:  Holly Barrett (#testimonytuesday), Jennifer Dukes Lee (#tellhisstory)Holley Gerth (#coffeeforyourheart), and Kristin Hill Taylor (#threewordwednesday).

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8 thoughts on “When You Don’t Know What to Say

  1. Hi Tiffany, I enjoyed your post! I’m visiting from Coffee for your heart. You make a very good point. We need, now, more than ever , to choose our words carefully, with kindness, and empathy. But first of all,with prayer.

  2. Hi Tiffany,
    I hopped over to read the rest of your post and I appreciate the wisdom of your words. I love what you wrote about sharing a meal or doing something practical to go along with words of comfort and grace and lets us put our faith into practice!

  3. Beautiful post. May we weigh our words, asking the Lord to watch over the way in which we speak, share, publish and proclaim them – especially on personal accounts, may we be accountable to use wisdom and discretion when expressing our views, even the truth. I am aware of the call to ‘speak up’, but may our words always be seasoned with grace. Thanks Tiffany for the wise instruction.

  4. Oh I totally agree. Sitting behind a screen seems to have made so many people forget words can cut deeply… and believer’s especially seem to forget the scriptural instruction to say “only that which helpful for building others up.” Thank you for this reminder!

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