When You Feel Forgotten

I’m horrible with names. Faces stick with me, but capturing names is like catching butterflies—just when I think I’ve got them, they flutter away. This flaw of mine becomes especially frustrating when I meet new people. I want to call them by name so they feel welcomed and valued, so they know they have not only been seen, but are remembered.

Because I know what it feels like to be forgotten.

After being anchored to a ministry I loved for ten years, God redirected my path. The circumstances were muddied by unanswered questions and a good bit of heartbreak, but that pain was secondary to the ties that seemed suddenly severed. Relationship and connections that I believed were more than just “business,” vanished before my eyes. It was as if my gifts, my voice, my mark had been erased—as if I had been forgotten.

Perhaps you’re wondering if anyone sees you today? Maybe you feel like your name isn’t known, and your work isn’t acknowledged. You might be wondering if what you’re doing matters—if your mark will remain or if you voice will stand out among the others. Maybe you feel buried under laundry, and dishes, and life.

You are not forgotten—God knows your name. (Tweet that)

I’d never forget you—never.
Look, I’ve written your names on the backs of my hands.
Isaiah 49:15b-16 MSG

God not only sees you, He is captivated by you. He knows your thoughts, understands your heart, and has handcrafted dreams for you to walk forward in. He has purposed to replace your fear with faith, your indecision with direction, and your weariness with His strength. He knows the number of hairs on your head, has counted the tears you have shed, and He has etched your name on His palms, outstretched and pierced, to purchase exclusive rights to call you His own.

When You Feel Forgotten (www.simplyforone.net) http://wp.me/p2v8DX-Bs

We must subdue the voices that whisper that we are not enough, that we are not seen. The draw to bigger and higher are pulling us away from the One Who Is. It is a deceitful enemy that urges us to climb mountains and set up altars on accomplishments and accolades that God hasn’t called us to.

We don’t have to struggle to be seen when we are completely known. (Tweet that)

We all want the assurance that we are valued, that our work is meaningful. But every acknowledgement pales in comparison to God’s vantage point. God has watched you from the beginning and He will be your audience until the end. Your value and worth to Him are infinite—measured by a love and grace unlike anything this world could ever offer.

I am the Lord; I have called you in righteousness;
I will take you by the hand and keep you.
Isaiah 42:6 ESV

It has taken time and healing to surrender my “forgotten” feelings. But God has taken my hand and kept me close. He who wrote the past, is writing the future. The same God who placed the initial calling, brought a new one. My God allowed me to walk through a refining fire, and His promises to restore what was lost are beginning to bloom.

We are far too loved to ever be forgotten.

Be assured today, that you are seen. You are known and loved by a God who does not forget His own…and YOU ARE HIS.

Over ItI want to share this space today with a special friend of mine who has published her first book. Kristine Brown has a beautiful gift for sharing words and an incredible heart for the word of God. Her book, Over It: Conquering Comparison to Live Out God’s Plan, is a guide to victory over comparison in our lives.

I share this book here today, because in it, Kristine walks you through the stories of three women in scripture who felt forgotten—who wondered over their worth and questioned whether they were seen and valued. Their stories, as well as the practical applications that Kristine sets forth in the pages, will awaken you to the incredible ways that God works in our lives to prove that not only does He see us, but He has set forth a unique plan and purpose for each of our lives. Please take a moment to check it out!

You can also find these words linked up at my favorite spots:  Holly Barrett (#testimonytuesday), Jennifer Dukes Lee (#tellhisstory)Holley Gerth (#coffeeforyourheart),Bonnie Gray (#onewordcoffee), and Kristin Hill Taylor (#threewordwednesday).


33 thoughts on “When You Feel Forgotten

  1. Beautiful truth, Tiffany. I paused at the thought of God being “captivated” with me. It’s a sticking point still and one He and I are working through as I learn to lean into and fully accept His love for me. Somehow I find it far easier to encourage others with biblical truth than receive it for myself!
    As a housebound woman made weak with chronic illness, I tend to frequently feel forgotten by society. There’s some solace in sharing thoughts with the online writing community and letting them see a side of me that my church has yet to recognise.
    May you never forget just how precious you are to God and to all who read your sweet words. I’m always inspired and encouraged when I stop by. Have a blessed weekend! :) x

    1. I know what that feels like Joy – being able to pour out, but not as easily receiving those truths as real to me. You have a beautiful way of opening your heart to us and sharing your journey – I have no doubt that not only are your words heard and received, but they are not forgotten. Praying that today, you truly sense God’s great love for you, that you hold fast to the promise that you are prized and precious, that you are seen and cherished as His sweet daughter. I pray you sense His increase today, friend. Sending you a BIG hug.

  2. Tiffany, I’m so sorry for the hurt from the body of Christ. But your words are hopeful because God revealed such deep truth. I think you have much to offer because the older I get, the more I realize how many have been hurt by church. So keep sharing the message that being hurt doesn’t = abandoning God or the church altogether.

    1. Thank you, Lisa. You know…as I walked that path and in the years since, God had brought so many people who have been wounded by the body across my path. It hurts my heart, and I know it grieves God. It’s a fallen world and we are a sinful people, and it’s just all the more reason to cling to Jesus and seek after Him first, not buildings, or steeples, or people. He restores and redeems with great grace and perfect timing. Thanks for being here, friend. xo

  3. Thanks so much for this encouragement today, Tiffany. I read over the “God not only sees you, He is captivated by you” paragraph several times. Beautiful truth. Painful experiences like you describe certainly leave us running to Him. And He NEVER fails us.

  4. Well, this is convicting me about someone who left our church a few months ago and I keep meaning to contact her to let her know she is missed and not forgotten. After we left our church a few years back, I remember how sad it was to not hear from many people, even though I assumed we were missed. I’m off to send her a FB message right now. Thanks for the prompt, Tiffany!

    1. So glad you are reaching out to her Lisa. Yes, being missed is one thing, but knowing that someone took the time to reach out and connect, is truly just a sweet gift and I bet it will go a long way. Thanks for visiting today, Lisa.

  5. I can relate on so many levels. After working for my church for over 10 years, I and the rest of our staff were laid off. Lots of hurt, pain, questions. I did/do feel forgotten by all I interacted with there. It’s been hard to go to church, by all of my kids lead and are involved in worship there. Thank you for sharing your heart!

    1. Ouch, Barbie – I feel the hurt and I know that’s a treacherous path to walk. We did leave the church, but it was a good year before God cleared the path and gave us the go ahead to do so. And Barbie, that was one hard year. I was hurt, and sad, and traveled through a few stages of bitterness and distrust. But, I can encourage you from the other side to lean in, bear down, and believe that God will bring beauty from the ashes. He delivered us and has given a broad space to walk, and it’s truly been incredible to watch Him move and weave the hard into the good. There is transformation and far-reaching fruit from the seeds of pain, and I’ll be praying yours blossoms soon, friend. Hugs.

  6. Tiffany, love THIS: “God not only sees you, He is captivated by you. He knows your thoughts, understands your heart, and has handcrafted dreams for you to walk forward in. He has purposed to replace your fear with faith, your indecision with direction, and your weariness with His strength. He knows the number of hairs on your head, has counted the tears you have shed, and He has etched your name on His palms, outstretched and pierced, to purchase exclusive rights to call you His own.” And as for forgetting names, you just need to bring me along. Apparently one of my gifts is remembering names and faces. I think it is all from working at Bible camp. We played name games to learn our campers names. To this day, I often play that name game in my head to help me remember people’s names! :)

    1. Yes, friend – come along! My husband is like you – as a teacher I’m always amazed that he remembers 100+ names by the first week of school. I need a few sprinkles of that gift. ;) Thanks for visiting today, Tara.

  7. Awesome post, Tiffany! It’s so hard to keep giving each day to God! My nature wants to nurture MY goals and MY plans. It takes daily focus to “unfocus…” To just do what I know the best I can and let God show me what’s next. Loved this. You’re a great writer. Keep going!
    Happy Wednesday, Coffee For Your Heart neighbor!

    1. Amen, Meg – “daily focus to unfocus.” God has been steadily teaching me to simply run my race – to run hard, and run brave, but to stop running ahead. There is truly freedom in releasing all those self-inflicted expectations and allowing God to set the pace. Thanks for being here – and for your kind encouragement. xoxo

  8. Hi Tiffany,
    I can relate how leaving a ministry you felt so connected to would be difficult. {And I laughed about how you have trouble remembering names, the harder I try, the more I forget names!} :) But it’s so comforting that God remembers our names and will never forget us – -I’m so grateful for that promise!

    1. Me too – Valerie. It’s a beautiful thing to know that we are ever upon His mind. And yes, I’m thinking of starting a name-tag movement. Wouldn’t that make life easier? Or entirely dangerous…ha! Thank you for being such a faithful visitor and encourager, Valerie. Always blessed to see you here.

  9. Tiffany, Thank you so much for sharing your heart and God’s heart.

    I’ve been in a similar situation that you were, a couple of times. Your post brought such encouragement reminding me of the “God who sees me”.

    “God not only sees you, He is captivated by you. He knows your thoughts, understands your heart, and has handcrafted dreams for you to walk forward in. He has purposed to replace your fear with faith, your indecision with direction, and your weariness with His strength. He knows the number of hairs on your head, has counted the tears you have shed, and He has etched your name on His palms, outstretched and pierced, to purchase exclusive rights to call you His own.”

    Great, edifying post!


    1. I’m so glad you found encouragement here, Karen. It’s a great comfort to think on how intimately God knows us and how very much He loves us – even in spite of our flesh and frame. Blessings back to you – thank you for being here.

  10. Yep… having to check my desire for attention at the door more times than I can count… your post today reminds me that His thoughts towards me override all others. And when we feel alone, He is just our heartbeat away.
    Drinking in all the goodness today, m’dear, as I always do when I visit your blog. xxoo

    1. Beautiful, Christine – yes, our heartbeat away. I too have to keep short accounts with Jesus about my desires and be sure that they are truly His for me. But there is such freedom in seeking out His purpose, knowing it’s always better than our own. Thanks for being here – your encouragement is truly a gift. xoxo

  11. Such beautiful comfort here, Tiffany. I can identify with the forgetting names and the desire to remember so I can better make people feel valued. Also the being forgotten feeling. I’m so sorry you had to go through what you did. What hope there is in that we are never forgotten by God! Blessings and hugs to you!

    1. There is such hope in knowing we are ever remembered! It was a tough journey, but one that I’m grateful that God guided me through. This side of is is more beautiful than I could have ever imagined. Blessings and hugs back at you, friend.

  12. Beautiful words, Tiffany. When our first son was born, I went from working in our church with women full time and finding my fulfillment in that to feeling like I was suddenly cast into a very small life. I loved being a new mom, but I felt forgotten, isolated. God is faithful. He brings those connecting opportunities to us when we seek Him. He knows our needs, even in our pain. And He SEES us. He values us. He cherishes us.

    Though people forget us, Our heavenly Abba never does. Such comfort in that truth!

    1. I remember that feeling too, Jeanne, when I came home to full time mommyhood. Those life changes and adjustments can propel us into identity crisis, can’t they. But as you said, God opens new doors and He meets our needs – often in ways that are so above and beyond what we could imagine for ourselves. Yes – so so grateful that our Abba father keeps us close to His heart.

  13. Tiffany, I can’t pick out a line or two and say, “This is me,” because it all applies–even the part about forgetting names! I’m so glad God’s promises to restore are beginning to bloom in your life … I have a feeling the resulting bouquets will be lovely indeed!

    1. I’m sorry that you’ve walked that “forgotten” path, but I’m so glad that we can be sojourners of faith together. God is indeed a keeper of promises, and it’s a joy to watch Him work – in my life and in yours. Blessings, friend.

  14. I love this, Tiffany… because I think we have all felt forgotten… forsaken, even. But God promises us that He will never to either of those things! Thanks for your honesty… I have had similar situations on a smaller (less amount of time invested) scale. It’s hard to let go and remember that God calls us in seasons and as long as we are good with Him, then we are good. Bless you, friend!

    1. So grateful for the promise that He never leaves, and certainly never forsakes. Letting go isn’t easy, but yes – God’s timing and seasons always prove to be so much better than what we could do on our own. Hugs, friend – always a joy to see you here.

  15. Beautifully written Tiffany! God knew I needed to read your post this morning as I seek His direction in my writing especially. It is easy to become distracted by so many things but I need to remember that God sees me every day and will never forget about me as I seek to glorify Him. Thanks for sharing this heartfelt post. Have a wonderful week and God bless!

    1. I’m so glad that God delivered the words to you, Horace. Yes, writing is definitely one of those places where we can wonder if our words are seen among all the rest. But God delivers them, doesn’t He? To the right people and the right time and with His perfect purpose. Blessings back to you!

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