Who Would Be Beside You? {Real Conversations Series Intro.}

Last Spring, one of my best friends at my side, I fulfilled a childhood dream and visited New York City. I was awe-struck by the majesty of buildings reaching toward the sky, throngs of people rubbing shoulders on busy streets, and the history of Lady Liberty, Rockefeller, and the Empire State.

My awe reached new heights at the hallowed ground of the 9/11 Memorial.

On a gray, wet, and frigid day, we stepped upon the soil that marked tragedy and transformation in the lives of thousands. Two caverns in the ground, now streaming with fresh water, once held steel and concrete—once held blood and breath.


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Umbrellas shielding us from rain, we stood with hundreds of others, hearts lodged in our throats as we remembered. A volunteer, a New Yorker, shared her story of that fateful day and life in the aftermath.

She spoke two words that have echoed in my heart ever since: MEANINGFUL ADJACENCY.

The architects of the memorial didn’t consider it sufficient to capture the names of lives lost in ordinary capacity. This place was so much more than ordinary. Instead, names would be engraved in stone with great significance, with relationship—with heart.

Two brothers, first responders on the scene, etched side by side.

One life, lost two that day—her father on the plane that crashed into the tower, and her best friend at the World Trade Center for a job interview. Their names rest together.

One man met another on a collapsing staircase and refused to leave him, even unto death. They will be forever linked, name by name.

Todd Beamer, who courageously shouted “Let’s Roll” on that terrorist boarded flight, is beside the other brave souls on that plane who rescued us from more tragedy.

And it makes me think—who would be beside me? WHO WOULD BE BESIDE YOU?

Who are the people who share your heartbeat? Whose thoughts echo your own? Who are the individuals, the lives, whom God has set beside you to hold you up, to speak truth, to thread their arm through yours as you travel this path of life?


Simple or complex. Tender or tragic. Whatever it is that has led us to the holy ground of Christ’s cross, we are adopted into one family. We travel, love, forgiveness, and abounding grace the cargo we carry with us. They unite us in a truth we can never be separated from—we are all His.

As a writer, I’ve been embraced and encouraged by an incredible community of sojourners. Women, who have reached out of their own lives and into mine. They have nodded along with me over words poured on a page, and ministered to me through their gifts and talent. We are linked by God and truth, our connection one that may have been unexpected, but was entirely orchestrated by Him.

Over the next 4 weeks, I’ve invited these sisters in Christ into this space—this safe place—to share their hearts; their story. To show us just what meaningful adjacency looks like in the everyday—in REAL life.

Real Conversations

Their REAL lives are within Christ and they exude Him with grace, authenticity, and transparency. They speak REAL truth backed by genuine heart that proves that faith isn’t something mastered with a striving for perfection, but is embraced one, often uphill, step at a time. <====Click to Tweet ]


This is your place too and we welcome you to travel beside us. We invite you in. Come sit with us and enjoy some REAL conversation with women of God.

July 21: Meredith Bernard
July 28: Abby McDonald
August 4: Jessica Lauren
August 11: Jennifer Frisbie

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All photos © Tiffany Parry 2015

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34 thoughts on “Who Would Be Beside You? {Real Conversations Series Intro.}

  1. Quite a powerful question… who would be beside you… so good I had to share this post with a group I run on FB for teens. I think we need to go through life making sure we’re doing this in the company of others who would never hesitate to jump into the fray…
    So glad I stopped by today, Tiffany… so glad!

    1. Thanks for sharing, Christine. You are so right, having people who willingly will jump in to stand beside us just makes a world of difference. It’s that kind of true fellowship full of grace and generosity that I think God wants to see among the church. I’m so glad you stopped by too…it’s always a blessing to hear from you.

  2. What a beautiful post. “Meaningful adjacency” is such a powerful illustration of the best of humanity that was displayed on that tragic day. It is also such a wonderful reminder of what we are called to do as Christians, to come alongside one another in community; to support and speak truth during the hard times and to rejoice during the times of celebration. Thank you for this beautiful two-sided reminder!

    1. Absolutely, Bree – it is a great reminder of the community and support that we are called to as a body. So grateful for that own fellowship and friendship in my own life and it’s my heart to extend it here as well. So glad that you stopped by. Hope you’ll come back and visit for the rest of the series. Blessings!

  3. Oh, how I’d love to see this, Tiffany! Perhaps some day… But your words and pictures literally took my breath away. “Meaningful adjacency” is strongly sitting upon my heart now. I’m so humbled that you asked me to participate in this series. Thank you, encouraging sister!

    1. It is definitely one of those must-see places if you are ever in New York. And yes, meaningful adjacency is something that doesn’t easily disappear from your mind – especially for us writers. ;) I’m so thrilled that you’ll be joining us for the series – I know your words will bless. Hugs, sweet sister.

  4. Tiffany, the connections you make here are beautiful. Thank you for sharing! Looking forward to these “beside you” conversations : ) #TellHisStory

  5. Beautiful, Tiffany. I never knew that there was such careful thought as to the placement of some of those names. We visited that hallowed ground a couple of summers ago, and it really is breathtaking. They’ve done such a nice job of honoring the lives and families of those who were lost there. ~ Thank you for sharing. Visiting you today from the #TellHisStory linkup. Sounds like a great series you have coming up. ~ Best to you ~ :)

    1. Pretty amazing the lengths they went to. Over 1200 requests for meaningful adjacency were submitted by loved ones of those lost. Such a beautiful thing to have people go through life with us. Thanks for stopping by today, Brenda. Blessings!

  6. Wow Tiffany, you brought tears to my eyes, friend, and I am so honored to share that adjacency with you. You are right. We are better together. I pray that God touches hearts through this series and the stories shared here draw us closer to each other and ultimately to Him. (hugs)

    1. Amen, Abby. I had a few tears myself over the stories from that day. God’s faithfulness and goodness is overwhelming. I’m grateful for your presence here and know your words will touch many hearts the way they have mine. xo

  7. Hello Tiffany, I love the introduction to your next guest series. And using the analogy “Who will be beside you?”

    Looking forward to reading what all your guests have to say.

    God bless you

  8. Beautiful post. Love the way you linked it all together. We really do need each other in Christ. Reminds me of Ecc. 4:12, “Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

    I’m your neighbor over at theRaRa link-up. : )

  9. Tiffany,
    Thank-you for this beautiful invitation! The Lord takes great delight in you!! May you continue “being fruitful in every good work, increasing in the knowledge of God and strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power.” (Col.1:10)

    Your visit there, draws me to this verse. . . “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends” (John15:13).
    Looking forward to your series beloved sister!

    1. Thank you, Jessica…for always ushering us into His throne room with your words. Indeed, there must be so many examples of lives laid down that day that we will never even know of. Thank you for being willing to share your heart with us…can’t wait. xo

  10. ” We travel, love, forgiveness, and abounding grace the cargo we carry with us. They unite us in a truth we can never be separated from—we are all His.” YES! I love this so much. Glad to be here reading your words and encouragement this morning. xoxo

    1. Always glad to have you here, Kristin. So glad that we travel together as sisters in Christ. As an only child, it’s just such a delight for me to have you beautiful ladies in my life and I’m truly grateful for your heart for Him. xoxo

  11. I love this though of meaningful adjacency, Tiffany. And what a beautiful display you saw at the WTC memorial. That goes deep. And I am so glad you are allowing us all to go deep with you. I’m honored to be able to share more of my story with your readers and I’m among some awesome company. You’ve humbled me. Praying God will use our stories to bring others closer to the greatest Prize we have in Jesus. <3 Love you!

    1. Well, I feel like I say this over and over – but I’m so glad God brought us together. The honor is mine and I know that your words are going to speak truth into lives at the precise moment they need it. Thank you, friend for joining me. xoxo

  12. I love how you connected the 9/11 memorial to God’s Kingdom. And I love the phrase “Meaningful Adjacency”! What a great illustration of the Body of Christ. These words say it so beautifully: “Whatever it is that has led us to the holy ground of Christ’s cross, we are adopted into one family. We travel, love, forgiveness, and abounding grace the cargo we carry with us. They unite us in a truth we can never be separated from—we are all His.” Amen! Great post! OH… and what a fabulous line-up of writers! :) Can’t wait to resist and read …

    1. Meaningful adjacency has been rolling around my head for some time – it really is just a beautiful premise, isn’t it? So glad we have that family of Christ to travel alongside us and I’m hopeful that this can be a place for people to see what that truly looks like in all it’s splendor. Thanks for visiting today. Blessings!

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