Regrets and Amends

If I could flip through a scrapbook of my twelve years with my son (for illustration’s sake, let’s say I had time to scrapbook) there would be many wonderful memories to sift through. Snapshots would capture the excitement of all the “firsts” and the proud moments of motherhood.

If the photos reflected reality, they would also display the memories that make my stomach roll and shame come calling. The days when I was impatient, when words were spoken out of exhaustion and blew up into anger. The moments I should have embraced instead of dismissed as annoying interruptions.

Regrets have a way of surfacing in vivid color and fading the happier memories to gray.

No one can truly prepare us for parenthood, can they? We can read the books and heed advice up to our eyeballs, but being responsible for another life is the biggest journey of faith we will ever embark on. It is a step-by-step, trial by fire, uphill battle. The rewards are promised, but aren’t always seen in the trenches…


I was so delighted to be asked to guest post over at Wild Flower Mom today. Stacy is a busy mom of twin boys who has a heart for sharing her journey, with honesty and transparency, in order to encourage others. Please pop over to continue reading this post and while you’re there, take a minute to get to know Stacy. It’s been my joy to connect with this lovely lady and I know you’ll be blessed by her too.


** Linking up with the beautiful blogging communities and the friends of my heart, Holley GerthMeredith BernardKristin Hill Taylor, and Jennifer Dukes Lee.

7 thoughts on “Regrets and Amends

  1. Tiffany, I did leave a comment but wanted to leave one here as well for you. Wonderful & encouraging post!

    Here is a copy of what I shared on Wild Flower Mom … A beautiful post, Tiffany. Nothing could have ever prepared me for motherhood. And believe me, I had plenty of parenting books. I have often felt that in the process of my children growing up, God used that time to help me to grow up, in Him that is :) I loved this line >>”God chose you to raise up the precious lives He’s entrusted to your care—He has no regrets.” So encouraging!

    1. Thank you, Joanne…for your encouraging words and comment (in both spots). It’s so true, we do grow right along with our kids and they teach us so much. Thank you for visiting me.

  2. I discovered the power of the mighty do-over about ten years ago, and it’s made all the difference in my parenting, my feelings of guilt, and my relationships with our daughters….now, I’m heading over to read the rest of this post ;).

  3. Tiffany – I wanted to make sure I left a comment on your blog, as well. But I followed you over to Wild Flower Mom to leave the same comment. Loved it!

    Here is what I left for you:
    Such wonderful words, Tiffany! I could honestly write down so many of your quotes from above. My husband and I have talked about this a lot…whenever we make those mistakes but how grateful we are for God’s grace and the forgiveness of our children. We tell ourselves “I’ve never parented an 11 year old before,” because it’s certainly different than the year before when she was 10. And the others are so vastly different, that we need to be patient and learn those love languages of each unique personality in order to love and discipline accordingly. We’re always learning…but I am so grateful for a Father who loves me and is the ultimate role model for me at the end of the day.

    Truly inspired by visiting this link today!

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