His Way {FMF:Gather}

I spoke with a young, single gal recently who was sharing her frustration about the minimal market of “good men.” You know, the ones with morals, values, and a desire to magnify Christ in their lives. The kind that would make the strong, spiritual leader she wanted in a husband.

“Things are just different now,” she mused. “They don’t want to wait for sex and they want to live together. People don’t do it the right way anymore. Perfect just doesn’t come along. Maybe it’s just time to do it their way.”

My heart ached. Oh, Lord … you still want it the right way. For her, for all of them, for my 12-year-old son who we’re training up to do it the right way – God’s way. Lest he break his mother’s heart!

We see the results of “their way” don’t we? Broken families, shattered vows, fatherless children, hurt and heartache at the expense of God’s plan.

Now…I’m the product of divorce that came from infidelity which lead to my single mom working very hard to raise me alone. God can reweave any story with His threads of grace, redemption, and restoration. It is a fact and I believe Him for it.

But God designed His way to save us the pain of the “worlds way.”

Today, my husband and I celebrate 16 years of marriage. I can say with complete certainty that we have gone through learning curves, and difficult seasons, but they have been a beautifully blessed 16 years. We have been happy exponentially more than we haven’t and we are the best of friends. I know it’s because we did it the right way.

We sought God from the beginning and we still seek Him today. We’ve kept our eyes fixed on Him when it was hard, or aggravating, or we weren’t sure what came next. We built our house on His foundation.

We took the vows seriously because we not only made them to each other, we made them to God.

And someday, we’ll stand before Him and answer for them. “So will you.” I told my single friend. “So will that one guy and all the others. Do you think God will be convinced that their way was okay just because it was easier?”

Jesus gathered the people together in the Temple and He exhorted them…

“Be on your guard. Don’t let the sharp edge of your expectation get dulled by parties and drinking and shopping. Otherwise, that Day is going to take you by complete surprise, spring on you suddenly like a trap, for it’s going to come on everyone, everywhere, at once. So, whatever you do, don’t go to sleep at the switch. Pray constantly that you will have the strength and wits to make it through everything that’s coming and end up on your feet before the Son of Man.” Luke‬ ‭21‬:‭34-36‬ MSG

Don’t do it their way, that’s what He was saying. Do it My way. I want you to end up upright, on your feet, strong and with Me … forever.

Compromise, lowering the bar, sacrificing the high standard for the convenient choice just doesn’t ever end well. Not for them, or us, and not for her.

“Watch, my friend.” I hugged her. “Wait on Him, see what He’ll do. Don’t give up. The cost is too high. His way is always so much better than ours. He may not do fairy tales, but He still does perfect, I promise.”

God still does perfect, I promise.


**This post is a link-up to Five Minute Friday – an incredible community of writers who pour their hearts on the page over one word. This week’s word is: gather. I admittedly took the long way around this week and some liberty with the word, but God wanted it His Way! To join the free write party visit Kate Motaung our hostess.

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21 thoughts on “His Way {FMF:Gather}

  1. I’m just reading this Tiffany. These words are so convicting…and encouraging. How often have I done things my way and the world’s way because it was the easy way? Too often to count. And your point is so valid. I want every teen and young woman and man I know to read this and hear your heart. It’s so true. Thank you for sharing so vulnerably. Love you and your heart and the way you share it…xo

    1. It’s something the Lord has really laid on my heart – that we serve a God of grace and restoration, but there is genuine brokenness that results from choosing the path that opposes His. As a believer I pray that I’m a safe place for that broken heart to land. We can’t re-write stories, only He can, but if we can spare people pain by sharing what we’ve learned along the way and in turn point them to Him, well, I’d like to think that pleases our mighty God. Love you friend, seeing your face here always puts a spring in my step. :)

  2. Amen! I needed to read this today. It’s so hard to teach your children the right way when the world is so full of busy, crazy, overwhelming assurance that it has things ‘right.’ May God be with us as we guide and mentor and teach our children about the love of God so that there are ‘good guys (and girls)’ left!

    1. That’s so true, Anita! We need to replenish that supply, don’t we?Infiltrate (not isolate) the world with young men and women prepared to live lives His way. So glad you stopped by today. Have a blessed week.

  3. What a great, encouraging post, Tiffany! I think it can be so hard to hold on and wait sometimes, when we don’t see a way or understand how it could happen. Thankfully the Lord sees us and knows all, and He has good plans for our future. His ways look different than ours do but like you said, God doesn’t do fairy tales but He rather does good and perfect. If only we were better at remembering to look at life from that perspective!

    1. If only for sure! God constantly has to remind me that His way is better and I just need to trust and hold on for those good plans. Doesn’t always make the wait easier and as in this friends case, when you long for love holding on is a lonely wait. But He works all things together for good, so we hold fast and believe Him for it! Thanks for visiting me and sharing your thoughts, Ronja.

  4. His way is so much better than our way. How I wish that this was a lesson that would stick with me! Thankfully He is made of grace and pours out forgiveness upon us liberally.

    1. Right, Marie! It’s one of those lessons that is so convincing yet we still try to pull back the reins, don’t we?! Yes – so grateful those mercies are new every single day. Thanks for visiting and sharing your thoughts. Blessings!

  5. I like this reminder and explanation of the gravity of doing it God’s way. It can be painful to still be waiting and feel like there is something wrong with you. I can see this in my sisters-in-law who are in their late 30s and still single. It’s so difficult!

    1. It is difficult and I know a lot of singles who feel forgotten by God because the right one hasn’t come along. Compromise is tempting, unfortunately rather than bind those wounds, it only causes more. Thanks for stopping by, Stacy! Always blessed by your thoughts and comments.

  6. I’m the product of a broken marriage, too, Tiffany. I’m so grateful God saved me at a young age. Both my husband and I chose God’s ways while we were single even though we had to wait a long time. I pray for my kids and others of the younger generation now. He does do things perfectly!

    1. It really is something to keep in prayer, Betsy. There are so many compromises being thrown at our kids and the enemy is really vying for them. It’s really on my heart to prepare my son to defend his faith and more so live it out. So glad you stopped by!

  7. First of all thanks for following. And, congratulations on your marriage! Reading your post encourage me to continue fighting for my marriage and for my family. Great post! Blessings, Tayrina from TGAWrites

  8. Tiffany, I love this post. I understand her point, but I am living proof that waiting for God’s best is so, so much better than settling for “good enough.” I remember the days of aching for someone to love me and make me his wife. To erase the loneliness. But after nineteen years of marriage, I can attest that waiting for the right one? It’s oh, so worth it.

    You speak such accurate truth in a loving way.

    Loved this post, my friend.

    1. Love your story, Jeanne! You’re right…waiting is hard when you just want a glimpse of His plan, but yes His way is so, so worth the wait. For the right one, for the right everything! Thanks for visiting me, friend. Hugs!

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