I spoke with a young, single gal recently who was sharing her frustration about the minimal market of “good men.” You know, the ones with morals, values, and a desire to magnify Christ in their lives. The kind that would make the strong, spiritual leader she wanted in a husband.
“Things are just different now,” she mused. “They don’t want to wait for sex and they want to live together. People don’t do it the right way anymore. Perfect just doesn’t come along. Maybe it’s just time to do it their way.”
My heart ached. Oh, Lord … you still want it the right way. For her, for all of them, for my 12-year-old son who we’re training up to do it the right way – God’s way. Lest he break his mother’s heart!
We see the results of “their way” don’t we? Broken families, shattered vows, fatherless children, hurt and heartache at the expense of God’s plan.
Now…I’m the product of divorce that came from infidelity which lead to my single mom working very hard to raise me alone. God can reweave any story with His threads of grace, redemption, and restoration. It is a fact and I believe Him for it.
But God designed His way to save us the pain of the “worlds way.”
Today, my husband and I celebrate 16 years of marriage. I can say with complete certainty that we have gone through learning curves, and difficult seasons, but they have been a beautifully blessed 16 years. We have been happy exponentially more than we haven’t and we are the best of friends. I know it’s because we did it the right way.
We sought God from the beginning and we still seek Him today. We’ve kept our eyes fixed on Him when it was hard, or aggravating, or we weren’t sure what came next. We built our house on His foundation.
We took the vows seriously because we not only made them to each other, we made them to God.
And someday, we’ll stand before Him and answer for them. “So will you.” I told my single friend. “So will that one guy and all the others. Do you think God will be convinced that their way was okay just because it was easier?”
Jesus gathered the people together in the Temple and He exhorted them…
“Be on your guard. Don’t let the sharp edge of your expectation get dulled by parties and drinking and shopping. Otherwise, that Day is going to take you by complete surprise, spring on you suddenly like a trap, for it’s going to come on everyone, everywhere, at once. So, whatever you do, don’t go to sleep at the switch. Pray constantly that you will have the strength and wits to make it through everything that’s coming and end up on your feet before the Son of Man.” Luke 21:34-36 MSG
Don’t do it their way, that’s what He was saying. Do it My way. I want you to end up upright, on your feet, strong and with Me … forever.
Compromise, lowering the bar, sacrificing the high standard for the convenient choice just doesn’t ever end well. Not for them, or us, and not for her.
“Watch, my friend.” I hugged her. “Wait on Him, see what He’ll do. Don’t give up. The cost is too high. His way is always so much better than ours. He may not do fairy tales, but He still does perfect, I promise.”
God still does perfect, I promise.
**This post is a link-up to Five Minute Friday – an incredible community of writers who pour their hearts on the page over one word. This week’s word is: gather. I admittedly took the long way around this week and some liberty with the word, but God wanted it His Way! To join the free write party visit Kate Motaung our hostess.